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Tips For Meeting Christian Singles

christian-couple-datingAs an unmarried Christian it is natural to seek out guidance on the best places to meet other Christian singles. It can be overwhelming to think about all of the many opportunities that are out there for meeting people that you might connect with. Hopefully these simple tips can make it a little bit easier for you to find the right person.

Trusted & Tested: 3 Step For Meeting Christian Singles Near You

The First Step – The first thing you want to do is make sure you are ready to date. Make sure you are in an emotional place to be there for someone else. If you are not, you could end up breaking someone’s heart and that wouldn’t be a good thing at all. It is normal to want company and support when you are in a bad place emotionally, but it is best to seek out this kind of support from family and friends, rather than seeking it in a romantic relationship.

Step 2 – The next thing you want to do is find a good church group to join with other singles. If you are in college you can find a college group. If you are older than that look around and see if you can find a church with a singles group in your local area.

If you can join one of these you can meet people who are also single and might be looking for someone to connect with. It might take you some time to find someone but this is your best bet. It is also good if the group is always adding new people to it. This is a reason why it is important to do some research. Try to ask around and see what you can find out about the best Christian singles groups near you.

Remember, even if you only make friends in the group, one of those friends could lead you to the person you will want to date. You will always be meeting new people and that is the best way to find someone to have a relationship with.

By meeting people through a church group, you know that they will share the same faith as you. Obviously this is something that is very important and you have a far better chance of meeting another Christians in these types of groups rather than is other kinds of groups for singles.

Step 3 – The last step you should know about is to pray about everyone you meet that might be a potential date. That way, you will know if they are the right person for you or you should move on. It is hard to find a good person to date but praying through it will help with that.

When you have made the decision to look for someone to date, you should try to do it right. You want to be the right person for someone else to fall for. Work on yourself and put yourself in a good place so that you can meet new people and eventually meet the person you should be with.

Is Cohabitation Before Marriage Ever Acceptable For Christians?

couple-on-sofaWhen it comes to Christianity, there’s a lot of argument about what is and is not appropriate. When one thinks about it, it makes a lot of sense. Even if the Bible is the inspired word of God and not just the words of men trying to understand God and the world around them, it was still written by men. And humans are notorious for presuming they’re right, and not actually listening when they’re wrong. It’s no different when the speaker is God Himself!

Because of that, there’s a lot of argument in some of the social situations. One such argument is cohabitation and premarital sex. To some, the Bible is 100% against premarital sex, and absolutely against cohabitation. To others, that’s an old fashioned idea that was used to keep people in line or to ensure the purity of bloodlines and judgement of heirs. So what’s the real truth?

Is It Okay For Christians To Cohabitate Before Marriage?

First, we have to understand that the Bible, even if it is the inspired word of God Himself, is still a book written thousands of years ago. What’s more, it’s not even one book, but two. The Old Testament is a book of history and laws for the Hebrew tribe as they survived in the ancient world. The New Testament is a book of spiritual understanding and encouragement to a sect of the Hebrew tribe within the Roman empire.

This means that even within the Bible itself, there is recognition that times and situations change. A good example of this is the kosher dietary laws, which were abolished in the book of Acts when God said “Let nothing I have created be called unclean”. Some people take this to be specific to the dietary laws, while others take this to mean everything under God’s creation. After all, God said let “nothing” He has created be called unclean, right?

This is all to say that the answer to “is it ever acceptable for Christians to do something” is “it’s complicated”. In the case of cohabitation, you need to search your soul, pray, and talk to your priest or pastor. If you are personally having doubts, then it may be better to not cohabitate. However, if you feel secure in your faith, if you feel that God is not concerned with this kind of thing, or that your relationship is as faithful and holy as marriage even without the legal bindings, then is it appropriate?

I say NO. But it is definitely an interesting topic to debate!

An Elementary Lesson On The History Of Christian Rock

young christian singingMusic has, practically since the faith’s beginning, been a vital aspect of Christian ritual. From the somber tones of an Coptic chant with minimal accompaniment beyond the voices of the singers to the haunting melodies of Gregorian chants backed by bells to lively gospel music performed every Sunday in black churches across the United States with pipe organs, song has for some centuries been a means of expressing to devotion to all religions, and Christianity is no exception. Still, faith and music alike have evolved since Biblical times. Arguably, in the western world, rock and roll is the major form of modern music, though like all forms of music, it continues to change and grow with the times.

Christian rock, a sub genre of rock and roll keyed to Christian themes, is relatively small but does have a devoted following. Its history is begins with rock and roll itself. Initially, rock and roll was an outgrowth of country and gospel music, with black musicians taking elements of both, such as the instrumentation of country and the lively energy of fervent gospel and combining the two into something new and unique. When white people discovered rock and roll, it was with the emergence of Elvis Presley. Presley attracted a good a bit of controversy from conservative Christian critics who contended that music was dangerous, though Presley himself was a dedicated Christian who was as good at gospel music as he was rock and roll; in fact, his second of three Grammy awards was for “He Touched Me”, a gospel album.

Christian rock as a phenomenon begins largely with Larry Norman, who believed that rock and roll was not inherently anti-Christian and set out to prove it with “Upon This Rock”, then described as “Jesus rock”. His attitude towards rock music was summarized with “Why Should the Devil Have All the Good Music?” and his song “I Wish We’d All Been Ready” included lyrical themes and imagery drawn from the Book of Revelations and its description of the Rapture. Norman also produced the music of other Christian rock artists, notably Randy Stonehill and his album “Born Twice”.

For some years, through out the 1970s and 1980s, Christian rock was seen as a small part of the growing Contemporary Christian Music and contemporary gospel music genres, though some artists did have crossover success, notably Phil Keaggy. Petra and Resurrection Band, two bands who brought a harder sound into the genre, reached a height of popularity in the late 1980s.

The 1990s were a heady time for Christian rock music, as the genre experienced a surge of popularity. Bands like Jars of Clay and Audio Adrenaline achieved large scale success, as did some of the later albums of dc Talk that had Christian themes. Outside the English speaking world, other bands such as Oficina G3 and The Kry enjoyed moderate success. Mainstream exposure of the genre began primarily with acts such as Skillet, Decyfer Down, Thousand Foot Krutch, Disciple, Underoath and others. The genre is also experiencing a surge of popularity in Russia, where Eastern Orthodox Christians are experimenting with the sound of rock and roll in a country that once rejected it.